March 1, 2009

In my Big I life, it was all about me.  I need quiet time.  I need to rest.  I don’t want to do that. I, I, I.

And while i have been trying to write a post for a day or three, at this moment my family is bugging me to watch a movie with them.

Before, Big I would say, “Not now.  I have something else I’d rather do.”

But now, trying to live a little i life, i need to put myself aside, show a little love to my family and join them for the movie.  The post will have to wait…

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking…”  1 Corinthians 13:4-5


i just need a moment of your time…

February 25, 2009

to tell you how wonderful My Man is. :-)

i’d be lying if i said that he was amazing all the time.  Because he isn’t.

But lately he’s been pretty darn close!

Last night, he gave the kids a bath so i could get some chores done.  He puts gas in my car, and sometimes turns it around in the driveway so i don’t have to back out in the early morning darkness every day.  And he listens to me complain.

Like today.

i must admit that i’ve been having a bit of a pity party.  i had responsibilities at work that i have occasionally that frankly are not my favorite.  Gripe, gripe, gripe. 

I moaned about how all of our clothes, towels and anything washable seems to be full of holes and i’m too cheap to go shopping.  Gripe, gripe, gripe.  He just smiled, and agreed.

I yelled about the dog jumping on the kids, barking incessantly when he’s outside, and destroying everything he can get those canine teeth on.  Gripe, gripe, gripe. 

I fussed about a wrong i felt i had suffered, and how this one individual never seems to listen to what I say.  Or anyone, for that matter!  Which is stifling when you’re trying to make progress and need their cooperation, and frankly, it’s down-right annoying!  Gripe, gripe, gripe. 

He listened, sympathized, and even offered to talk to my offender about it.  And then he hugged me.

Then he told me that i looked really pretty today.

Yep.  He’s a keeper.  :-)

(Don’t hate me because i have a good one – my first husband was a drunk and a drug addict – and i just didn’t like his girlfriend!)

God, i love My Man!  Thank you for letting me have the courage to chase him for that first date!  My first marriage was nothing like this, Lord, probably because i chose him, and You didn’t.  i’m pretty sure that You did choose My Man just for me, and i can’t thank you enough, especially on days like today.  He’s just what i needed.

And in case any of you are struggling with a husband who you want to throw back in the water, i’m all ears.  i’ve been there, and i survived.  i’d be happy to talk to you, or just listen, if you need a friend.  You can reach me at

Just long enough!

February 23, 2009

Well, we’re back.


Didn’t we just leave?

Oh, yeah.  We did!  i guess those long weekends are just never quite long enough.  But, this one was long enough to sleep really good in a bed with big, fluffy pillows and warm comforters for two nights.

And just long enough to let us watch “Gran Torino” with Clint Eastwood one night (recommended!) and Best Picture winner “Slumdog Millionaire” the next.  (HIGHLY recommended!)

Long enough to have popcorn for dinner two nights :-)

It was long enough for us to grab a late night pizza at our favorite place, Bearno’s.

Long enough to have Ms. Garmin direct our route all over that gorgeous countryside, so we could enjoy even more of it in a shorter time.

The weekend was long enough to let us have a little bit of warmth, followed by a lot of cold and snow.  Which gave us just enough beauty, while allowing just enough safety on the roadways.  (Unfortunately, i couldn’t take pictures and drive.  But it was amazing.  Icicles on limestone walls?  Stunning!  Snow-covered trees?  Heavenly!  i so wish i was a photographer!  i hope my mental camera had plenty of film!)

The wintry weather worried us just enough to get us on the road a little early, missing our favorite “vacation church,” but cleared up just early enough that we were able to catch a service at a never-seen-before church that we enjoyed, too. (Clicking on that link will show you a tiny glimpse of what we saw all weekend!)

We had just enough time to get home before dark, and see the kids before they went to bed.

i guess maybe our weekend away was just long enough, after all…

Thank you, Lord, for a wonderful weekend with My Man.  i am abundantly blessed.  It is always such a joy to be able to step back from the daily grind and slow down.  Look around.  Actually notice the surroundings.  Be given the time to have an actual conversation, free of constant interruptions.

My prayer now, Father, is that my readers will have the same opportunity to find a few minutes, hours or days to rest.  Relax.  Enjoy the beauty surrounding us that You created, God.  To see You, in all Your Glory, and praise You.

i pray that they will be able to spend that much needed quality time with their spouse, and reconnect as a couple.   i pray that they take the time to enjoy being together.

Thank you, Lord, for knowing just what we need, when we need it. Thank you, Lord, for knowing exactly when we’ve had just enough…Amen.

The Way of Love

February 13, 2009


One of the best love letters ever written….

“If I speak with human eloquence and angelic ecstasy but don’t love, I’m nothing but the creaking of a rusty gate. If I speak God’s Word with power, revealing all his mysteries and making everything plain as day, and if I have faith that says to a mountain, “Jump,” and it jumps, but I don’t love, I’m nothing. If I give everything I own to the poor and even go to the stake to be burned as a martyr, but I don’t love, I’ve gotten nowhere. So, no matter what I say, what I believe, and what I do, I’m bankrupt without love.

   Love never gives up.
   Love cares more for others than for self.
   Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have.
   Love doesn’t strut,
   Doesn’t have a swelled head,
   Doesn’t force itself on others,
   Isn’t always “me first,”
   Doesn’t fly off the handle,
   Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others,
   Doesn’t revel when others grovel,
   Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth,
   Puts up with anything,
   Trusts God always,
   Always looks for the best,
   Never looks back,
   But keeps going to the end.

Love never dies. Inspired speech will be over some day; praying in tongues will end; understanding will reach its limit. We know only a portion of the truth, and what we say about God is always incomplete. But when the Complete arrives, our incompletes will be canceled.

When I was an infant at my mother’s breast, I gurgled and cooed like any infant. When I grew up, I left those infant ways for good.

We don’t yet see things clearly. We’re squinting in a fog, peering through a mist. But it won’t be long before the weather clears and the sun shines bright! We’ll see it all then, see it all as clearly as God sees us, knowing him directly just as he knows us!

But for right now, until that completeness, we have three things to do to lead us toward that consummation: Trust steadily in God, hope unswervingly, love extravagantly. And the best of the three is love. “

—1 Corinthians 13

Happy Valentine’s Day!  Don’t forget to tell your Forever Valentine how much you love Him today!